The road less traveled

As you might have noticed, I don't really blog here. But I'm getting back to writing!
Enough naive vulnerability to a world of wolves and demons. Here is the summary or "review" of the book I talked told you about. You can find a more unbiased not-so-focused -on-love version on wikipedia. First of all..Let me show you the genius behind why praying things away and praying for things to happen is FUTILE:
"So if your goal is to avoid pain and escape suffering, I would not advise you to seek higher levels of consciousness or spiritual evolution. First, you cannot achieve them without suffering, and second, insofar as you do achieve them, you are likely to be called on to serve in ways more painful to you, or at least demanding of you, than you can now imagine."Bless you for that liberation. Now we are getting somewhere.Kay.. Basically this is it. ( Thanks to all my friends for being there for me when I needed to discipline myself or NOT.. depends from doing what eh>? ;))
According to the author Peck peck whatever.....
Because living requires facing difficulties and pain, which we would rather avoid, self-discipline is required. Such discipline involves, among other learning to delay gratification, to spend the time and effort necessary in order to solve the problem at hand, to accept personal responsibility as well as acknowledge the reality of the situation.
Life is DIFFICULT. ACCEPT IT. IT WAS NEVER SUPPOSED TO BE ALWAYS HAPPY. Life is a series of problems and these problems need to be confronted for us to grow spiritually just like students need to solve problem sets in elementary to go to highschool and that's the only way theyt will learn. Problems in life "evoke in us frustration or grief or sadness, anguish or despair." Yet it is in facing these problems that we gain wisdom, strength and courage.
"This tendency to avoid problems and the emotional suffering inherent in them is the primary basis of all human mental illness." Hence, drugs, alcohol, anti depressants and even like double personalities and psychosis.
According to the book,Love is not a feeling, but an activity, and defines it as "the willingness to extend oneself for the purpose of nurturing one's own and another's spiritual growth." He bemoans the rampant notion of romantic love that pervades society today, which holds that one is not truly in love unless one feels those incredible "I'm in love" feelings that we all know so well. He observes, "Many, many people possessing a feeling of love and even acting in response to that feeling act in all manner of unloving and destructive ways. On the other hand, a genuinely loving individual will often take loving and constructive action toward a person he or she consciously dislikes..."
Now this part makes me glad I'm a science student...
He teaches to be suspect of the familiar "in love" feeling for two reasons: 1) "The experience of falling in love is specifically a sex-linked erotic experience," which he believes may be genetically coded in us to insure the perpetuation of the species; and 2) "The experience of falling in love is invariably temporary...the feeling of ecstatic lovingness that characterizes the experience of falling in love always passes."
Ok I have a question..
DOES SEX IMPOSE ON US THE FEELING OF COMMITMENT AND LOYALTY TO THE POINT THAT GIVEN THE SAME SITUATION W/O THE SEX.. YOUR FEELINGS TOWARDS THE PERSON ARE LESS INTENSE AND LESS "PASSIONATE"?
Is Sex a rope around our neck that drags us down the path of illusions just because of the moral humanbeings we are? Regardless of it's intensity, great or not great sex.. the act of surrendering to another human is a statement... it's surrender, and for a woman it's more like it's the giving of herself with her life and all there is in it to a man? I wonder how many relationships end, or never get started, because the partners feel genuine connection and communication together, but don't feel "in love." Considering the drastic change in the sexual environment in these days of AIDS and stupid people around.. Ok enough Tammy Paranoia.. Let's get back to love and real love.There is nothing like reading the book but I'll try to show u the good stuff..The "Myth of Romantic Love" is often what lead people to heartache and despair later on in life. These fairy-tale followers often try to conform their lives to the myth of the fairy-tale. "...they still cling to the myth and attempt to conform their lives to it". If one goes through life thinking that love is the end all be all, then nothing else will matter to them, which would finally bring everything to a crashing halt once love walks into the picture. Peck peck thinks a person could truthfully ruin their life by putting everything on hold for love. Love is also a job. True love does not come easy and has to be worked on in order for it to be successful. Love will not last forever without it being worked upon. Especially in long-distance relationships. If two people claim to love each other they try to work out their relationship even though they are not close to each other physically. Society is far off in its "definition" of love because many still believe in the fairy-tale of the man or woman riding in on the white horse. This type of loving is known as dependent and is not healthy. It is most commonly found in people searching for love. ( SO DON'T SEARCH!!!) There are hundreds of men for one woman and vice versa it is BULLSHIT that there is only one woman for one man. Ok Peck peck stresses that love is NOT a feeling. Ok I have a problem here... what the hell have I been going thru??? So I beg to disagree, Love is a feeling, because I feel love is the strongest feeling that a person can feel and if it is true love then it can last forever. I think love is a feeling because when you love someone, you get feelings in your body and mind. Thinking about a person can bring on a wave of softness that is often described with love. ( Although it has proven to be the opposite for me I don't believe love is to blame.) Kilig and butterflies in ur tummy pala? These are all feelings and are often experienced in conjunction with love. The road less traveled is a masterpiece. Slap on the face yet an "ohhhh..... so that's why?" kinda book. I recommend next for those who need some maturity and responsibility in their lives ( we all do) May God enlighten those souls.